
Simple Steps for Families and Caregivers
How to handle personality changes in seniors is something many families face. It can be confusing and even scary when someone you love starts acting very different. But don’t worry—you’re not alone, and there are ways to handle it with care and kindness.

Why Do Personality Changes Happen?
As people age, their bodies and minds go through changes. Sometimes, those changes affect how they act or feel. Things like dementia, strokes, or even falls that hurt the brain can make someone seem like a totally different person.
For example, a kind grandma may become angry or moody. A talkative grandpa might grow quiet and distant. This doesn’t mean they don’t love you anymore—it just means their brain is working differently.
“They’re still your loved one—just a bit different than before.”
Don’t Compare Them to the Past
It’s easy to think, “She never used to be like this.” But try not to compare your loved one to how they were before. Doing that can hurt their feelings—and yours.
Instead, see this as a new way to know them. Try to understand who they are now. You might even discover new ways to connect with them.
Find a Support Network
You don’t have to do this all by yourself. There are support groups full of people going through the same thing. Ask around—maybe your friends or neighbors are also caring for someone with personality changes.
Tip: Check out Alzheimer’s Association support groups or local Facebook caregiver communities.
Support helps you feel less alone. It gives you a safe place to share your feelings and learn what’s worked for others.
Talk to a Doctor
If your loved one is acting strange, speak to a doctor. Sometimes it’s a sign of something treatable, like a medicine side effect or an early sign of dementia.
Doctors can explain what’s happening and suggest treatments or therapies. They might also connect you with local programs or services that can help.
? Visit Mayo Clinic’s dementia resources to learn more.

Get Extra Help If Needed
Taking care of someone with big personality changes can be hard—really hard. And that’s okay. You might need help from a nurse, home care worker, or even an assisted living center.
Many people feel awkward asking for help. But needing help doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you care enough to make sure your loved one gets the best care possible. It also means you won’t burn out.
If you’re not sure where to start, visit your local senior center or ask a doctor about resources near you.
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Final Thoughts
Handling personality changes in seniors isn’t simple. But with understanding, support, and the right help, you can face it with strength and love. Be patient with them.
And be patient with yourself, too.
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