The Secret to Mom Friends

December 4, 2025 | by Refined_Minds

How to Make Mom Friends

Having a community behind you makes it easier to deal with the problems of being a mother.

How to Make Friends with Moms

Get going early. You probably won’t have much free time after you bring your baby home from the hospital. While you’re pregnant, reach out to other moms to get a head start on making friends. Talk to other people in your obstetrician’s waiting room and at baby stores.
Think about your own area. Try to find friends who live close by so you can see them often. Find out where parents in your area like to hang out.
Tell people about it. Tell your family, friends, and coworkers that you want to meet other parents. They would know a couple with a kid who is the same age as yours.
Get on the internet. Check out the growing number of apps that help moms make friends. A lot of them are free. Look for local chapters of parenting groups like La Leche League or Stroller Strides.
Go to the park. Old-fashioned ways still work too. Choose a time of day when your child is usually calm, and then go play on the slides and swings.
Bring fun toys with you to get other kids and their parents to come to you.
Get some exercise. A lot of new moms go to gyms and exercise studios. Sign up for prenatal classes, and then come back for Mommy and Me yoga.
Be proactive. If you see another mother who seems like a good match, be brave and make the first move. If she’s also trying to make new friends, she’ll appreciate how nice you are.
Go there often. If you go to the same places at the same time of day often, you will have a better chance of making a lasting connection. You might want to go to a busy coffee shop right after the morning rush on weekdays.

Plan a play date. If you get along with another mom, give her your contact information and suggest a play date. That way, you’ll have an hour or two to get to know each other better.
Set up time alone. If you want to talk to adults, make some time for it. While your kids are napping, have a cup of coffee and talk. Take a walk together while your kids sleep in their strollers.
Be open to change. The friends you have now that you’re a mom may not be the same as the friends you had when you were single. It’s nice to find out that you have a lot in common, but you might just like having someone around to keep you company during the week or to share information about day care centers and kids’ movies.

Don’t make comparisons. Parents sometimes feel like they have to look perfect, and social media can make that worse. Keep in mind that the best friendships are the ones where you can be yourself and relax. Instead of trying to meet an impossible standard, enjoy being yourself.
Get a mentor. It might be especially helpful to talk to parents who have been through a lot or who have a parenting style that you admire.
You can learn a lot from these real-world examples.
Don’t worry about making new friends as a new mom. As you grow your community, you’ll get more support and validation, and you’ll be helping other moms get the same benefits. Most importantly, you’ll get ready to be a better parent.